Welcome to To the Left! 

We've probably all had a friend whose boyfriend we weren't a fan of. Why didn't you like him? Maybe he never made enough time for her or ignored her calls. Maybe he cheated on her and she took him back. Or worse- he was abusive in some way. Being a good bestie, you listened time and time to her tell you the things he did that upset her. Did you tell her to stick with him? That he would eventually straighten up for her/ Or did you come right out and tell her to dump him? Perhaps you've found yourself to be this friend in the past or even now as you're reading this. Regardless of which is the case, I'm here to tell you it has to stop; all of it. 

As powerful women, we cannot keep allowing ourselves to put up with being treated as anything less than the amazing queens that we are. We also can't depend on others (most specifically, a partner) to assess our value. Nor can we continue to blue ourselves to people and situations that make us feel worthless. 

Pop/R&B singer Beyoncé Knowles released a song in 2006 called "Irreplaceable." In it, she sings; 

"To the left, to the left

Everything you own in a box to the left

I can have another you by tomorrow

So don't you ever for a second get to thinking you're irreplaceable"

It's a great song- go listen. It's the narration of breaking up with a cheating man, and not thinking twice about showing him the door. She tells him he is so easy to replace that he can pack up his things "in a box to the left," leave, and she'll be more than fine. That is true independence, and it takes an immense amount of strength and confidence. So many women I have known have clung to an undeserving partner and damaged their self-worth because of it. They didn't know how to be strong enough to cut ties and live securely on their own, or rather, that that was even an option. 

However you have been exposed to the struggle, I encourage you to take from those experiences and learn to treasure yourself in this world. Lots of things may break you down like partners, the media, or even those closest to you. This can hurt so much when you are single, but you are way more than what they say! Know that you are capable of being that "strong independent woman who don't need no man!" That confirmation comes from within YOU. You have to rise up and take charge of your life. You must know you are a fabulous human being who should not settle for anything in life- ever! You are worth so much more than anything less than the absolute best, and if someone does not realize that, they can move #ToTheLeft! 

Thanks for stopping by! 

Adrianna